Although we are in the midst of summer, below is a helpful article on how to survive the summer with your teen. Summer can be a great time for your teen to relax or get a job. However, teens also have more free time in the summer which can lead to risky behavior. Here are some tips on how you can help your teen this summer. Enjoy! Article Title: Preparing for Summer with Teens
Author: Amity Chandler, former Drug Free Charlotte County (DFCC) Executive Director, Port Charlotte, FL
Article Date: May 29, 2013
At a recent community presentation of primarily retired individuals, I mentioned that we like to remind parents that have students at home during the summer to throw out the left-over liquor bottles from holiday celebrations. The retired individuals promptly noted that they would take those “donations,” as their children were already raised and out of the home. Whether you “donate” your lingering supply to a teen-free neighbor, or simply dump it, here are some tips to navigate summer with your teen: First, let’s debunk summer. There is nothing magical about it, except that teens tend to have more free time and there is a strong correlation between free time and risk-taking among teens. This could mean riding their bike into the pool, walking through the drive-thru, or an all-nighter of the Jersey Shore. It could also mean the temptation to experiment with alcohol, marijuana or sexual activity. Short of locking them up, there is no silver bullet to prevent any of the above, and I often joke with my friends that as parents of teens, we have a 100% chance of something going awry. It does not however, have to be as a result of a lack of planning.
Plan 1. Throw out the left-over liquor bottles that are sitting around from the holiday parties. Bigger is not better in this case, and your teens weren’t hatched yesterday. If they’re going to experiment, it will be with the stuff you’re least likely to look at or touch. This also means old prescriptions and the cigarettes you might have quit a month ago. Also consider most Florida teens say when they drink they do so at another friend’s home. There is a parent somewhere that hasn’t gotten the memo...it’s time for us to start talking to the parents of our friends and asking direct questions, such as, does my teen have access to alcohol in your home? Worst-case scenario is you’ll embarrass your teen. Let’s just say it won’t be the first or last time.
Plan 2. Prepare for boredom. Actually, don’t fall victim to the “I’m bored” routine. Before you know it, they’ll be calling you on the phone while you’re at work asking to go to place A, with friend B, whom you’ve actually never met, but is a friend of friend C, whom you know quite well. And oh by the way, they’ll be home before you get home, and they’ll keep their cell phone on. Don’t get me wrong, I believe most teens are inherently honest and good – I am their biggest cheerleader. But I’ve noticed they can smell weakness. If they can get their otherwise logical parent who normally would insist on all facts and details with 24-hour notice to budge in this one moment, the door is open for compromise. Work with your teen to make plans in advance and stick with the 24-hour notice rule for activity outside of the home. If friend B is really that important to your teen, they’ll make plans within your guidelines.
Plan 3. A summer job is not a barrier to experimentation. In fact, in can be a gateway. Summer jobs are great for teaching responsibility, earning money and other life lessons. Summer jobs can also result in relationships between your teen and older, legal drinking-age individuals. Plan on talking to your teen about work relationships, new friends and your expectations of them while they are working for the summer, including curfews and work hours.
Plan 4. Plan for fun and down time. Endless surveys of teenagers show that they are often more worried, more stressed and more over-extended than any other teen generation that has come before them. Sleeping a few days away is not going to be the end of your bright-eyed sassy teenager. Hanging aimlessly at the beach with an approved list of friends may be just what they need to decompress and refocus. Plan in advance for ways that you and your teenager can do just that – relax. There is no need for summer vacation to be any more onerous than any other period should be while raising teens. At the end of the day, we’re still a parent, and they’re still a teenager. Have a safe, well-planned summer.
About Drug Free Charlotte County, 2012 Coalition of the Year Drug Free Charlotte County (DFCC) is a non-profit community organization based in Port Charlotte, Florida dedicated to reducing alcohol, tobacco and drug use among youths in Charlotte County. The coalition was founded in 2000 after a state survey indicated that Charlotte County had one of the highest underage usage rates in Florida. The coalition embarked on a mission to reduce these rates by conducting various social marketing campaigns in area schools and throughout the community, using primarily a social norms approach. Today, DFCC has succeeded in significantly reducing underage alcohol, tobacco and drug use in the county. In 2012, DFCC was recognized as the Coalition of the Year by the Community Anti-Drug Coalitions of America (CADCA).
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